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Buying a home usually involves more than one round of negotiation. There's the offer itself, then often a counteroffer, then a second round after the inspection, and sometimes a third after the appraisal. Knowing how each stage works helps you stay calm and make good decisions along the way.
6 Stages of a Home Negotiation
Building Your Offer
Your offer is a written contract on standard forms used in Oregon or Washington. It covers price, earnest money, financing, contingencies, closing date, possession, any seller paid costs, and a deadline for the seller to respond.
The Seller's Response
The seller can accept, reject, or counter. A counteroffer changes one or more terms and sends it back to you. Each new counter replaces the last, and deadlines keep things moving.
Going Back and Forth
Counteroffers can go a few rounds. Think about what matters most to you and where you can be flexible. Sometimes a small concession on timing or terms gets you the price you want.
Mutual Acceptance
Once both sides sign the same terms, you're under contract. Deadlines for earnest money, inspections, and financing typically start counting from this date.
Negotiating After Inspection
If your inspection reveals problems, you can ask the seller to make repairs, give a credit, or lower the price. The seller can agree, counter, or decline, and you may have the option to cancel under your inspection contingency.
Negotiating After Appraisal
If the appraisal comes in below the price, you can renegotiate with the seller, request a reconsideration of value, cover the gap, or walk away. On a VA loan, the amendatory clause protects your earnest money.
The bottom line: Negotiation isn't a single moment. It's a series of decisions from your first offer to your final walkthrough. Know your priorities, stay patient, and let your agent handle the back and forth. My job is to protect your interests at every stage.
Frequently Asked Questions
How long does a seller have to respond to an offer?
Whatever deadline you set in your offer. In a busy market, deadlines are often a day or two, though they can be longer or shorter.
Can I withdraw my offer before the seller accepts?
Generally yes, as long as it hasn't been accepted. Your agent will deliver the withdrawal in writing according to the contract terms.
What is a counteroffer?
It's the seller's response that changes one or more terms of your offer, such as price or closing date. You can accept it, counter back, or walk away.
Can I negotiate after the inspection?
Yes. You can request repairs, a credit, or a price reduction within your inspection period. The seller can agree, counter, or decline.
What happens if the appraisal is lower than my offer?
You can renegotiate the price, request a reconsideration of value, pay the difference, or walk away. On a VA loan, the amendatory clause protects your earnest money.
Who negotiates on my behalf?
Your buyer's agent. They communicate with the listing agent, advise you on strategy, and make sure the paperwork reflects what you agreed to.
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Troy Doty, Principal Broker, Northwest Realty Source. Licensed in Oregon and Washington. ABR®, MRP, and SRES® are credentials of the National Association of REALTORS® and its affiliates. CIAS™ is a designation of U.S. Realty Training. Content adapted in part from ABR® consumer resources. This page is general information, not legal, tax, or lending advice.
